Motivation Monday: If You Want It, Get It

I’m a firm believer that you have to want change in your life in order to achieve it.

If you’re training for a new job or a marathon, you have to want to do it enough. Otherwise, you’ll never go through with it. Let’s take an example of Ben. He was overweight (like I was). He became unhappy with his life (much in the same way I did). Then, one day, he woke up and decided to do something about it. (We’re more alike than we think.)

Check out his journey and tell me that it doesn’t make you want to get up and run a 5K around your neighborhood right now.

 

Tis The Season For Personal Pivots

Every once in awhile I find myself back at where I started…albeit I’m usually in a better position, but still, nonetheless, back at where I started.

As some of you may know, when I began my running back in February, I was running my own design and marketing business. Since then I’ve had a few clients and took on a full-time job and thus giving up grad school and my businesses. Unfortunately with startup life comes a lot of risk-taking, and I had confidence that things would work out. Unfortunately they aren’t and now I find myself a teensy bit more vulnerable than I’d like. This has resulted in a few choice words and snide remarks at people who are trying to help — here’s looking at you, Shant — but also just generally being a bit more humble and conservative than usual.

Every so often we get on our high horse — whether it’s in our heads or publicly — but it’s important to know that what goes up must come down. While I have a pretty clear definitive plan on my next steps, they are still scary nonetheless.

My plans include:

  1. Wrapping up my graduate degree at Golden Gate University. I have about a year left of full-time study before getting my masters.
  2. Taking my ACE Fitness studying more seriously. If health and wellness is something I am serious about switching into, I really need to know the material and get my act together.
  3. Hunting down part-time/contractor opportunities. I want to be as focused as possible on studying so that when it comes time to flip the switch again — go from student to worker — I can do so with a clear mind and a sharpened toolset.
  4. Looking at new places to live. I really love my little apartment and neighborhood but I wonder if there isn’t a better spot that’s better suited for me. There are a few places close by that are cheaper but larger, but I’ll have to do a cost/benefit analysis to figure out if it’s worth considering.
  5. Get my money ducks in line. A little easier said than done since I hate thinking about money but apparently it’s a necessary evil at this stage in my life.
  6. Seriously train for my 70.3. I’m going to put together a training calendar, based on the aggregate of what’s available online, and use my personal training studying to my advantage. If I begin this month that’ll give me 11 months — nearly 40+ weeks — to get half-Ironman ready.
  7. Continue fundraising for Dress for Success. I’ve let that go to the wayside a bit since I’ve been busy with the full-time job but now’s a great time to pick that pack up!
  8. Build great content for my ‘Ironwoman in Training’ blog. I’d love to continue writing posts, but I’d like to invite guest bloggers, host live video chats, and just get more involved in the running community online.
I’m trying not to get too down on myself. These last few months I’ve certainly learned a lot about time management and have taken great leaps and strides in my professional career. I’m sure some of you are also underemployed/unemployed/funemployed. How are you all holding up? Have you been able to make more time for fitness and exercise? How does unemployment effect your health and wellness?
I suppose if you’re still happy employed, you should consider donating a little something to my Dress for Success LA Marathon fundraiser!

I Hate Networking!

A young up and coming star in the start-up world recently confessed to me that he hated networking. I sighed (with great relief on the inside) told him to join the club.

I’ve been to mixers, networking events, tweetups, meetups, etc — all in the name of being more social. When you’re tethered to your computer for most of the sunshiny day, you tend to gravitate towards being as social as you possibly can in the small bursts of availability that you have. Getting yourself “out there” is pretty nebulous for most people. “How do I meet new people?” “What do I say?” “Where do I meet these people?” Oh, the anxiety!

Well, I would not say that I am some sort of networking rock star but I happen to do perfectly fine at events. At first I hated going to them, but after a few events I realized why I disliked them so much. It was my fault. See, I was going into it with some sort of crazy notion that I would meet some fabulous people that I would be able to plug in to whatever my project was at that time. That was the wrong attitude to have!

Stop networking to gain business contacts or collect cards, and just get yourself out there to meet new people. Honestly, the best way to network is to do so with no intentions outside of just making friends. Some people are meant for “working a room,” and all the power to them. However, if that’s not your thing, I am sure that this rather innocuous five step plan can help you!

  1. Walk up to someone who is alone
  2. Acknowledge something about the event you’re at
  3. Introduce yourself
  4. Ask an open ended question
  5. LISTEN!

Are you familiar with the adage, “Only boring people are boring”? Well, if not you should burn that into the insides of your retinas because I find it to be very true. Learn to keep the conversation going and learn to be your true self, and soon, these events will be a piece of cake!